Does giving my kids the occasional sugary treats make me a bad mother?
Now days, a play-date can turn into a philosophical occasion. I’m not referring to the children themselves but to the food philosophies some parents would like you to abide by while their darlings are in your home. ‘Don’t misunderstand me, I’m not judging you . It’s alright if your kids eat treats but my kids don’t eat anything with sugar or preservatives’. This was once said to me after a mother dropped off her precious organic angel for a play-date. I’m often taken aback by these types of parents who can come across as patronizing with the insinuation that they are more enlightened parents. Most parents abide by the principle that ‘it’s your house and your rules‘ (including food) when their kids are visitors. Well that’s the way I approach it, with the obvious exception of kids with food allergies.
Is it bad manners or acceptable practice to expect other parents to follow your ‘food philosophy’ in their home?
Why do some parents need to advertise that their kids follow a strict food philosophy? Is it pretentious or not? Eating a healthy and balanced diet is very important in my household. We believe that healthy food is essential for our kids intellectual and emotional well-being. Luckily, my kids aren’t fussy eaters and they love their fruit and vegetables. However, I do allow my kids a daily treat as an incentive to encourage them to make ‘good choices’. Recently, I told a mother who professes to following a very strict organic diet, about my treat system. Well I may as well told her that I let my kids worship Satan, she went off on a very long rant questioning my poor parenting choice. Part of me admired her passion for healthy eating but mostly I found her self-righteous and belittling.
‘A spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down’, Mary Poppins
So where does it all end? Even at children’s parties some kids are only allowed a small slice of birthday cake because: ‘It’s a special occasion although we normally only allow little Judy to eat organic, gluten-free, preservative free and sugar-free food’. I find this behaviour rude and insulting to the parents hosting the party particularly when other parents stand around commenting on the lack of healthy options like sushi, fruit or sandwiches. Maybe this type of behaviour is acceptable in today’s society as you also see it at grown-up parties where guests refuse to eat the food that the host probably spent ages making because they ‘don’t eat carbs’.
‘Eat what is offered to you!’
People in general have become picky eaters which has bred kids who are fussy eaters.. The food philosophy from my childhood was: ‘When you are a guest at someones’ house, eat what is offered to you.’ It was unheard of to arrive at someone’s house and make dietary demands. I detest the term ‘food philosophy’ and the way it has allowed people to turn into rude guests. What’s wrong with the good old fashion notion of eating all things in moderation and that the occasional treat won’t kill you?
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