‘A rose by any other name would smell as sweet’
When you tell people you’re a ‘homemaker’ you usually get an unenthusiastic response. However, when you say you’re a ‘manager’ then you get all kinds of admiration. I did an experiment a few years ago when I told people I was a ‘manager’ in a family company. It was funny how impressed some were by my jazzed up ‘job title’. I wonder if any of them realised it was just an embellishment?
The power of language!!
It was misleading but I perceive myself as the ‘manager’ in my family (‘my company’). My husband and I manage the finances, logistics and appointments for ‘our company’. I manage the day-to-day operations and his strong communication skills are handy when dealing with banks or centerlink!
Our management roles match our individual strengths.
Recently I read a book ‘Live What You Love’ by Naomi Simson. It was interesting although I found myself questioning its relevance to my personal situation. Then I remembered my experiment and started to examine the book from the perspective of a ‘manager’ not a ‘homemaker’. By simply changing the title it altered my self-perception and I actually felt more confident.
The ‘label’ changed but the reality stayed the same.
I came to the realisation that I had become personally affected by some people’s uneducated perceptions about ‘homemakers’. Subconsciously, I had internalized the constant disinterest people exhibited when I stated that I was a stay at home mother. Consequently, I felt embarrassed about my role and that somehow a fancy job title would make it relevant and respectable.
Other people’s disinterest can affect your confidence and result in you questioning your purpose.
By the end of the book I no longer called myself a ‘manager’ but reverted proudly back to a ‘homemaker’. The book was beneficial as it helped me to analyse my purpose and how to capitalise on my strengths. Most importantly it helped me to be confident as a ‘homemaker’ and ignore the opinions of others who aren’t important in my life.
There were a lot of good lessons in ‘Live What You Love’ by Naomi Simson.
Below are five lessons that I found interesting. In order for them to be beneficial, you need to dig deep and be honest with yourself.
What is important to you?
What are your passions?
How can you implement these into your daily life?
a) you love doing.
b) make you laugh.
c) you are good at.
d) make you proud.
From this list write what you are passionate about.
How could you incorporate your passion into your daily life?
3. Find your strength.
Ask a couple of people to name a few of your strengths. Also do the same by having them identify your non-strengths.
You may be surprised by how they perceive you. From this exercise you can learn how to implement your strengths into your daily life.
4. Positive thinking.
Go the whole day without saying one negative thing.
It’s harder than you think!!
Before going to bed write down a couple of things that were positive in your day and why.
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